I’m really hoping to get some feedback or recommendations, but I think I have a mental block preventing me from having an orgasm. Some back info- I’m 25 and was a victim of SA as a child. I went through many years of therapy and am much better now, and I don’t think it is the reason for my block, but my friends think it is. I have had 5 sexual partners as an adult, and have never had an orgasm during sex (which isn’t shocking, I know). I tried masturbating when I was in high school and it did absolutely nothing for me, so I didn’t try again for the longest time. Flash forward to 24 yrs old and I’m fed up that I’ve never experienced an orgasm so I purchased some toys to try. Specifically the brand LELO LIV3 (vibrator) and SORAYA WAVE (rabbit).
Here’s where my frustration comes in. I feel pleasure, and I get allll the way to what I’m imagining is the peak before you have an orgasm, and I just get stuck there. One of 3 things happens- 1) nothing, it dies back down slowly 2) it starts hurting almost immediately so I have to stop 3) I am stuck at that peak for a very long time (longest was 48 seconds) and then I have to stop because I can’t take anymore. I end up feeling unfulfilled, still turned on, and too sensitive to keep trying.
I have already been to a pelvic PT, nothing is wrong with my muscles or pelvic floor. I’m not thinking about anything other than hoping to orgasm, and I’ve even tried toys while in bed with a partner. I just can’t orgasm.
Anyone ever have this issue? And how did you fix it? Any recommendations?
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